The Power of a Mirror and a Tissue
Julie Douglas • August 25, 2025

In their journey toward independence, one of the earliest and most meaningful steps children take is learning to care for themselves. In Montessori, this essential area of development is part of what we call Practical Life, which supports both physical and psychological growth.


A Prepared Environment for Self-Care


Montessori environments are intentionally designed to foster this growth. Everything is made accessible at the child's level: a sink they can reach, a faucet they can operate, and soap measured just right for a small hand. We carefully choose and arrange the materials to promote independence, order, and confidence.


We ensure that activities that may have once been done to children—like washing hands, brushing hair, or putting on a coat—can now be done by children, with increasing skill and pride. These seemingly simple tasks carry profound developmental weight, reinforcing our children’s self-concept and strengthening their ability to function with increasing autonomy.


Learning to Care for the Self: Wiping the Nose


In the Montessori approach, even the simplest daily tasks are viewed as meaningful opportunities for children to build independence and confidence. One such task—often overlooked by adults but deeply empowering for children—is learning how to wipe their own nose.


This Practical Life activity is typically introduced around age one, or when a child enters a Montessori classroom. It is designed not only to support hygiene but also to encourage autonomy, intentional movement, and body care.


This activity can also be introduced at home!


A Prepared Environment for Self-Care


To support this important developmental step, first think about how to carefully prepare the environment:


  • Set up a small basket or container that holds about 10 tissues, each folded in half. (During cold season, full-size tissues may be used for greater effectiveness.)
  • Place a small trash can nearby for easy disposal.
  • Have a mirror, either mounted or resting at the child’s height, to allow your child to observe their own face and movements.
  • Store extra tissues nearby, either on a grooming table or supply shelf, to support repetition and independence.


This setup encourages children to move freely and participate fully in the process, fostering both confidence and coordination.


Step-by-Step: The Wiping Process


Next, we can model and provide gentle guidance:


  • Invite your child to come to the mirror.
  • Help them notice something on their nose and explain the purpose of the activity.
  • Show the tissues and select one, unfolding it slowly and deliberately.
  • Invite your child to select and open a tissue.
  • Face the mirror and demonstrate how to place the tissue so each half forms a “tent” over the nose.
  • Gently bring the tissue edges together and wipe upward and outward.
  • Fold the tissue in half, then rotate it and repeat with the other side.
  • Use the remaining clean section to dab gently under the nose.
  • Dispose of the tissue in the trash.
  • Invite your child to have a turn and, if needed, show the mucus on the tissue as a reference.
  • Encourage repetition with a new tissue if their nose is not yet clean.
  • Remind your child that they may wipe their nose anytime.
  • Follow up with handwashing to reinforce cleanliness.


If your child has excessive mucus or needs a more thorough cleaning, you can also use pre-moistened wipes. We typically don’t introduce nose blowing until around age 2.5 to 3 to avoid the risk of ear infections.


When introducing this activity, it is helpful to consider its overarching purposes. First and foremost, learning how to wipe one’s own nose helps support independence and confidence. The process also helps children develop self-awareness and tools for self-care. 


We can also highlight certain movements so our children achieve success. In Montessori, we call these “points of interest.” The key points of interest in this activity are:


  • Watching their own movements in the mirror
  • Observing the removal of mucus from their face
  • The folding and unfolding of the tissue
  • Practicing care not to touch the mouth during wiping


A Foundation for Independence & Self-Awareness


In Montessori, every Practical Life activity serves a deeper purpose. Even wiping the nose becomes a pathway to self-discovery, dignity, and joyful independence. By breaking down the steps and offering repeated, respectful invitations to participate, we give children the tools they need to become gracefully self-aware and independent!


Care of oneself is about far more than hygiene or appearance. These early experiences shape children’s understanding of their place in the world and prepare them to become responsible, confident, and independent human beings.


In Montessori, self-care is not a chore. Rather, it’s a celebration of children’s unfolding independence. Come visit our school to learn more about activities that cultivate children’s capability and self-respect. 


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One of the top questions parents ask about Montessori is: How do teachers deal with children avoiding work they don’t want to do? This is a really important concern, and becomes increasingly so as children get older. Most families know Montessori centers on student choice, and it can be hard to envision that value working in conjunction with accountability. The good news is it’s something we take very seriously. In fact, our entire approach is based on the idea that we must teach children to develop strong work habits and encourage them to be driven by internal motivation rather than reacting to external factors. This takes time, but Montessori guides are there to support children as they navigate the journey. Give Them Choice Having choice is actually a powerful tool in combating avoidance. When children (or people of any age) have freedom to make their own decisions, it’s empowering. Knowing that others trust in us to do the right thing is often all it takes to do the right thing. No one likes to feel micromanaged. We allow our students to choose the order of their work; some like to start the day off reading, while others prefer math. We also let children have autonomy in other ways. They get to decide when they need to use the toilet, have a snack, and move their bodies. There are, of course, procedures to follow in order to keep everyone safe, but we don’t believe kids should have to ask permission to address their basic needs, nor should they have to do so on a schedule that is convenient for adults. The big picture: comfortable children that feel respected and trusted are much more likely to work hard and meet expectations. Quietly Observe If there is one statement that can help us reframe our perspectives with empathy it’s this: Each child is the way they are for a reason. There is a reason a child is avoiding something. As adults, it’s our task to discover what that reason is, and find gentle ways to address it. Montessori teaches us to think like scientists and use observation to learn and make more informed decisions. Some questions we ask ourselves as we observe a child who is struggling: Is the work too challenging? Is the work too easy/is the child bored? Is the child experiencing emotional upheaval in their life? Are the child’s basic needs being met? Is the physical classroom environment supportive of the child’s work? When Montessori teachers are trained, they learn to first look to the environment, then examine themselves and their own actions. Only after considering the first two possibilities do they look to the child themselves as a potential source of the issue. Appeal to Their Interests Sometimes all children need is a ‘hook’. Although Montessori materials in the classroom are meant to be used in a very specific way, and deviation distracts from authenticity and effectiveness, there is some room for flexibility. 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As children get older and academics become more of a focus, getting work done becomes much more important. Beginning in the kindergarten year or lower elementary, Montessori guides typically begin to utilize work plans. These can take on a variety of forms, but they are generally a visual schedule, created in collaboration between the guide and the child, of what must be done. Students can typically choose the order in which tasks are completed, but adults check in to make sure there is follow-through. In the event the child is not meeting the expectations, a guide will typically meet with the child to discuss new strategies. They may help the child develop time management strategies, give suggestions as to seating, or provide tips for effective work habits. The child leaves the meeting with concrete strategies to try, and the adult and child reconnect at some point to evaluate progress. It helps to remember that learning to work is part of the child’s work. Rather than forcing children to do what we want when we want them to, we take a more long-term approach. Our goal is not just to share information, but to help children become joyful learners. We want them to walk away from their Montessori school being able to feel confident in their abilities and ready to take on challenges. We all want to avoid certain tasks from time to time. Our job is to teach children how to manage their time well and accomplish whatever it is they need to get done. Perhaps unsurprisingly, this work can be carried over into the home as well. The more parents learn about Montessori, the more the concepts become part of parenting and the life of the child. We hope you will reach out to us if you have any questions or would like to discuss this topic further.